As I think Gurdjieff made clear - many people are open for incre-mental
changes, but bulk at the big ones. He likened it the chromatic scale in
music - needs a semi-tone to get to the next level. Or something like that.

Even with incremental changes there are usually subtleties to be included.
But it is The Big One where people turn back.
(Trouble is, if we acknowledge The Big One then we are going to have to stop
holding on to everything - everything, and let life live us.)

Most of us have no idea how much we attempt to control our lives - through
attempting to control others, and life in general.

As I understand him, Jesus attempted to share this through his saying:
"Thy Will Be Done."
(My take on life is that there is not a 'Thy.'
Life is the Thy, and we are Life.)

So often I have shared with a person - right up to the point where they need
to see themselves and their behaviour. Meaning, to take responsibility for
their actions, words, and thoughts - and thus their reality and the state of
their lives. That is usually where they find a perfectly 'legitimate' excuse
to stop looking: "For a while."

One difficulty for a person attempting to support a person through this
stage is that when the person is in the middle of one of their patterns,
that is when they want to quit - 'for a while.'

The most potent time for seeing and releasing yourself from a pattern of
your cellular memory is right when you are in the middle of it.
Otherwise, it is just mind stuff -how can you 'deal' with something that is
not happening right in that moment!

Classical example:
Disciple goes to his guru and asks how he can deal with his
anger/sex/greed/pride/jealousy/etc.
The guru asks the disciple to show him the
anger/sex/greed/pride/jealousy/etc. so he can observe it!
If it is not actually happening it is only a (distorted) memory.

If you really, really want to be free - then you are already.
Never have not been.
If you are not yet feeling free then it means you want to be free - on your
terms. Trouble is, it is your terms that are keeping you from feeling your
freedom! Nobody is keeping it from you - except you and your conditional
terms. You want to be free - in the same place, with the same people, in the
same conditions, with the same views. "Unless you die and be reborn."

When 'it' 'happens' - meaning you suddenly realise you have been free all
the time, you also realise that it was your idea of what freedom is that was
preventing you from being in it.

That sort of thing.

Happy freedoming...