sexBhairavi originates from Sanskrit as Bha Ra Va.
Maitreya wrote the Bhairava Tantra for Gurudev,
and the ancient reference is from the Yogini Hrydaya:

[the tantra mantra]
Visvashya bharanat vamanat shushti
stithi samhārakāri parasivaha”
  - the shiva almighty
lord creates this universe, he nourishes  it and
again he dissolves it into himself.

That is why Bhairava is the ultimate energy and
his shakti, his energy, is Bhairavi. Bibhite klesho
yasmādithi bhairavaha - all the sorrows, pains, agonies
and accidents who creates, he is Bhairava because to
come out of all that we have to worship his shakti, Bhairavi.

“Bhairavaha sarva shakti bharitaha
” – all those
energies, siddhis, are his family to the Bhairava,

so we should worship Bhairavi, his energy, to
attain all the energies.

This entire concept of time is Bhairava’s form.
One who desires to grow above time has to worship
his energy; that is Bhairavi. One sadhaka who
gives up lust, greed, passion, everything becomes
his Bhairavi, his energy. The union of a Bhairavi
and Bhairava is the union of absolute reality.

The path of Shiva and Shakti exists as the same,
but the path of the Bhairava cult involves direct
relationship through the human agonies and sufferings
to grow out of them. We dive right into that which we
want to evolve from. As you can imagine, the path
of the Bhairavi is very intense. It is intense in enjoyment,
where every desire is fulfilled to lead to dissolution
from it. So a Bhairavi cannot be any female; only
those who have reached a certain level of growth
can handle this level of enjoyment. Only one with
so many births can this level of enjoyment prevent
personal enslavement to such human afflictions, as
those not able to evolve out of them can become
addicted and further enslaved. The Bhairava worships
his Bhairavi, and together they do their sadhana to
uplift themselves to higher levels of consciousness.
And a Bhairavi constantly thinks about her Guru,
as she is dissolved into him.

 Aghori – The Bhairavi path also belongs to the path of
the Aghora, that which is not impure. Nothing is impure
to the Bhairavi. Ghora is that which is impure. In our past
lives, Maitreya was, and still is, Aghori Kharpara Bharati,

and I was, and am, Bhajrani, his Bhairavi. While human nature
allows us to forget the memories of our past lives, the
samskāras, the impressions are still there when we
take our next birth. So over and over we question,
why do I keep doing the same mistakes? What is the
reason behind it? Why me? These questions never
resolve themselves, actually they make the burdens
more difficult to overcome. Instead of thinking so,
acceptance of who we are without knowing our
past mistakes serves an ability to accept all.
Then all facets of the human existence will be
considered as not impure, or pure. Aghoris
worship such items as human skulls, and use
them in rituals as a way to face the hidden truth.
Ordinary people will condemn such practices as
disgusting or evil, but the skull is a beautiful part
of the human body. Everyone has one, it is just
that we don’t see a skull in living beings that
reminds us of the future death to come. This is the
death that we fear, and Aghori does not have the
fear death, nor fear that which we cannot see with
the naked eye. As blood is feared when it pours
out of a wound, actually it is the living material
within us, we just now have to look at the pain
associated with it. And again, the Aghori cares
not about pain, but openly acknowledges it and
worships it.

I received my first human skull directly at a smashan,
burial ground, when I visited the Samadhi, final
resting place, of Amritānanda’s Guru. I prayed to
him and continued on a short walk through the field
to a small village. On the same pathway back, a local
villager showed me a skull. Immediately, my eyes lit
up like a child to a new toy, and I asked for it. He
rinsed it in some water, packed it up and I took it
back to the ashram. I never verbally told Amrita
Guruji, only mentally I told him, because I did not
want to bring it in temple for the public to see.
Most people would never understand this path and
it was not the time for such a relic to be released.
The perfect time did come when I visited Maitreya
in Hyderabad, and we were talking about skulls. I
told my son, Varma, that I had one. He wanted to see
it, and I unpacked it. He and Maitreya chanted
Bhairava mantras as they placed their hands on it,
imbibing the powerful energies into the skull. It
now sits in the puja room as a living relic.  In fact,
he is joked to be my first husband.

Naked – A Bhairavi is totally naked to the truth.
We come out exposed and naked to the reality. When
a person exposes themselves, there is nothing to hide
that protects you from your incredibly strong ego. We
live unshielded from anyone or any inhibitions.
Truthfully speaking, I always want to be naked.
The hot weather is suffocating in this country, and
I prefer to lie around the peetham in the buff all day
long. In modern Indian society, they cannot tolerate
seeing the skin of a woman. So constantly we play
this game of locking the door and closing the windows,
when men can walk around shirtless with no problem.
There are mosquitoes nightly and the hot sun daily, so
coverage is necessary. But when in the public only the arms,
face and feet are exposed, as well as the flash of belly
and back when wearing a sari. Exposing yourself in
India is considered a sin, because the woman’s body
is considered sacred. So why do they want to cover-up
such a sacred temple that deserves to be worshipped?
Because of Indian suppressions, even women themselves
fall into this trap.

I want to be revealed all the time, and I encourage
others to let everything out so that we are left with no
identity to hide. People cannot tolerate this because a
Bhairavi will call you out on all your shit. We want to
bring all of your inhibitions up to the surface so they
can be dissolved. There is no embarrassment to the
Bhairavi because we accept any faults and let them
turn over quickly. I have the innate timing to be at
the right place at the right time to show people exactly
what they have been hiding, whether they like it or not.
This can bring enemies, temporary or permanent, but it
is only done out of love for them to see them grow
out of their inhibitions. So, people like Nirmala and
Sobha cannot stomach my presence at all. Nirmala
came over last night saying she wanted to do some
seva for Maitreya, but also wanted some privacy to
get laid. A Bhairavi has nothing to hide, everything to
reveal, so she would never need any privacy. She asked
him to ask me to hide in the puja room while they had
sex all in a full sari. I am such a cooperative Bhairavi that
I would gladly be of service to them, chant mantras,
apply lubrication, anything to show love to a  fellow
Bhairavi. But alas, the great Bhairavi tradition is lost in
India, and the situation was what it was. Even Americans
cannot digest my presence when I open my mouth,
because they do not like their suppressions and mistakes
blasted out to the universe. But a Bhairavi is fearless
about themselves and their loved ones.

 Not a wife – A Bhairavi is not a wife at all, although our
love is purer than any married couple. While Maitreya is
my ever-beloved from so many thousands of years, we are
not subject to the social constraints that a typical marriage
has. In fact we are not even legally married, nor really care
to, even though we are expecting biological children.
We did promise ourselves and declare our love privately,
but without any witnesses and the pomp and circumstance
dog show. Maitreya says that no spiritual cult can hold a
couple together, only the love can keep them together.
That’s why he says that if we have the love we can be
together, if we don’t have the love then we cannot be
together. So there is no need for us to be wed.
There is a Sanskrit term that so describes this form
of marriage of nymphs, gandharva vivaha,  celestial
marriage, where  a boy and girl agree to marry in private
without the presence of any witness or spiritual cult, and
they are considered married. This doesn’t exist openly in
modern society anywhere, so again we challenge the
social norms.

 Usually sexual monogamy is assumed in a love union,
but a Bhairavi and a Bhairava do not uphold such ideas.
Ananda Bhairavis and Ananda Bhairavas practice
vama tantra, where sexual union is a central part of the
ritual. In our case, Maitreya is also known as Aghori
Kharpara Bharati, where he had many Bhairavis and
partook in vama tantra and uplifted many Bhairavis
to the celestial world. Those that surrendered completely
to their Guru aren’t roaming the world any longer, while
those that didn’t, like me, still exist today. In the past,
I did practice vama tantra with him, but kept dodging
and leaving him lifetimes over and over again. Some of
us have been cursed by our Guru, that they are even living
in a male body in this life but show huge potential as a
Bhairavi. But we don’t just fall off the trees, so don’t
expect to go out on a date with one expecting a great fuck.

Bhairavis are very hard to find, and would only be
revealed to those who have this kind of karmic connection.
If you find a Bhairavi and try to marry her like any mere
mortal, good luck if you have any idea of what that kind
relationship is, because it won’t be that.

 A healer – Bhairavis are great natural healers. Daily
Maitreya and I do pranic healing for ourselves and our
children to clear negative energy. Our family is currently
hit by some prayoga, tantric black magic, so we are constantly
working to keep our family together. We also massage
constantly for healing and to bring back the wonderful
yoga of touch back to this Indian society that is so
afraid of touching each other, especially the opposite sex. 

 Works with the weather – Bhairavis have the ability to
work with or affect their weather surroundings. During
her evening of Navaratri, nine nights of worship for the
Mahavidyas, the ten great wisdom goddesses, I started to
experience it directly. The goddess Chinnamasta literally
means “severed head.” We cut off our own head which
means cutting off the thoughts to reach Absolute Reality.
When doing the Chinnamasta sadhana, I was able to connect
with the electrical field, and lightning storms followed me
while driving through the entire state of New York to Pennsylvania.

The Chinnamasta energy works with lightning, and also will
disrupt any electrical equipment, so be careful when you use
computers, cell phones, stereos and such items because
they will go away, and again you have to surrender to that in
your normal life. When I did a Bhairavi fire worship, a
raging storm of heavy rain, lightning and thunder hit directly
at midnight the moment I walked out the door.

Coincidence you may say, but the Bhairavi does have
this power as she is totally in tune with Mother Nature.

Bhairavi,'s blog will be coming back to this website talking about her history of her Aghori practices...

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Nicole_D  Alan Steinfeld interviewing Nicole Daedone, the founder of One Taste Urban Retreat Center.

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honey-cinnamonDear Friends of NewRealities,

Since the initial posting of the Cinnamon and Honey article, it has become one of the most popular pieces on the whole website.  Besides some of the great testimonials I have received about this simple healing formuala there are some additional consideratins that have been brought to my attention.  Since I have had so many hits and some very important comments I decided to take these helpful suggestions and clarification in order to bring people more update and accurate information.  First before you start taking this, please note that all Cinnamon is not the same.  There are two types: Ceylon Cinnamon and Cassian Cinnamon.  Cassian has much higher levels of a compound called Coumarin, which can be toxic to your liver in large prolong doses, please see specifications below.  If you are taking Cinnamon daily you should take Ceylon Cinnamon which has low levels of Coumarin and won't damage your liver.

As far as honey, it is best to get raw never been heated honey.  You can find some great products at your local health food store.  But the big chain supermarkets  honey have none of the nutritional value you can get with natural raw. But even rawhoney is very high in natural sugar and should be used in moderation.  that is the key to this firmula and health in general.  The best strategy is to take a rest of one week after six weeks of use to give your body a rest... and you can come back to the formula with renewed strenghth.

Here are some other update: where it says spoonful, it is most logical to use teaspoon sizes not table spoon.
And it is best not to boil honey, it can lose it valueable enzymatic power.  Where it says boil, it means pour boiling water over honey, it does not mean boil the honey/
Do not boil, but it ok to pour boiling water over honey.  I hope this

One additional confession:  It is true that most of the original posting was mostly taken from a the Weekly World News, January 17 1995.  But just because a lot of what is found in that paper can be considered confabulation, this particualr piece seemed to have merit and the honey and cinnamon combination as a natural rememdy can be found in many other places as a well proven remedy.  - Alan Steinfeld of NewRealities

Here is the updated article:

Folk remedies have been around a long time for a very good reason-- they work! 
Here is another for the folks: CINNAMON & HONEY

Honey is the only food on the planet that will not spoil or rot. It will do what some call turning to sugar.  Never boil honey or put it in a microwave. To do so will kill the enzymes in the honey. Make sure your honey is untreated, unprocessed and not heated. This will have the greatest benefit. Caution honey is a form of sugar so too much honey of any kind is not good for the body. But a little bit will help some of the following conditions.

The Cinnamon should be organic. Chinese medicine says it is warming and nourishing for the Kidneys.
Weekly World News, a magazine in Canada has given the following list of diseases that can be cured by honey and cinnamon as researched by western scientists:

 ARTHRITIS: Arthritis patients may take daily, morning and night, one cup of hot water with two spoons of honey and one small teaspoon of cinnamon powder. If taken regularly even chronic arthritis can be cured. In a recent research conducted at the  Copenhagen  University , it was found that when the doctors treated their patients with a mixture of one tablespoon Honey and half teaspoon Cinnamon powder before breakfast, they found that within a week, out of the 200 people so treated, practically 73 patients were totally relieved of pain, and within a month, mostly all the patients who could not walk or move around because of arthritis started walking without pain.
BLADDER INFECTIONS: Take two tablespoons of cinnamon powder and one teaspoon of honey in a glass of lukewarm water and drink it.  It destroys the germs in the bladder.
CHOLESTEROL: Two tablespoons of honey and three teaspoons of Cinnamon Powder mixed in 16 ounces of tea water, given to a cholesterol patient, was found to reduce the level of cholesterol in the blood by 10 percent within two hours.  As mentioned for arthritic patients, if taken three times a day, any chronic cholesterol is cured.  According to information received in the said Journal, pure honey taken with food daily relieves complaints of cholesterol.
COLDS: Those suffering from common or severe colds should take one tablespoon lukewarm honey with 1/4 spoon cinnamon powder daily for three days. This process will cure most chronic cough, cold, and clear the sinuses.  To make it lukewarm,  place it in a small jar and let it set in warm water for awhile.
HEART DISEASES: Make a paste of honey and cinnamon powder, apply on bread, instead of jelly and jam, and eat it regularly for breakfast. It reduces the cholesterol in the arteries and saves the patient from heart attack.
Regular use of the above process relieves loss of breath and strengthens the heart beat.  In America and Canada,  various nursing homes have treated patients successfully and have found that as you age, the arteries and veins lose their flexibility and get clogged; honey and cinnamon revitalize the arteries and veins.

UPSET STOMACH: Honey taken with cinnamon powder cures stomach ache and also clears stomach ulcers from the root.
GAS: According to the studies done in  India and  Japan , it is revealed that if Honey is taken with cinnamon powder the stomach is relieved of gas.
IMMUNE SYSTEM: Daily use of honey and cinnamon powder strengthens the immune system and protects the body from bacteria and viral attacks. Scientists have found that honey has various vitamins and iron in large amounts. Constant use of Honey strengthens the white blood corpuscles to fight bacterial and viral diseases.
INDIGESTION: Cinnamon powder sprinkled on two tablespoons of honey taken before food relieves acidity and digests the heaviest of meals.
INFLUENZA – FLU: A scientist in  Spain has proved that honey contains a natural ' Ingredient' which kills the influenza germs and saves the patient from flu.
Tea made with honey and cinnamon powder, when taken regularly, arrests the ravages of old age. Take four spoons of honey, one spoon of cinnamon powder, and three cups of water and boil to make like tea. Drink 1/4 cup, three to four times a day. It keeps the skin fresh and soft and arrests old age. Life spans also increase and even a 100 year old might start performing the chores of a 20-year-old.
PIMPLES: Three tablespoons of honey and one teaspoon of cinnamon powder paste. Apply this paste on the pimples before sleeping and wash it next morning with warm water.  If done daily for two weeks, it removes pimples from the root.
WEIGHT LOSS: Daily in the morning one half hour before breakfast on an empty stomach, and at night before sleeping, drink honey and cinnamon powder boiled in one cup of water. If taken regularly, it reduces the weight of even the most obese person. Also, drinking this mixture regularly does not allow the fat to accumulate in the body even though the person may eat a high calorie diet.
Applying honey and cinnamon powder in equal parts on the affected parts cures eczema, ringworm and all types of skin infections.
FATIGUE: Recent studies have shown that the sugar content of honey is more helpful rather than being detrimental to the strength of the body. Senior citizens, who take honey and cinnamon powder in equal parts, are more alert and flexible. Dr. Milton, who has done research, says that a half tablespoon of honey taken in a glass of water and sprinkled with cinnamon powder, taken daily after brushing and in the afternoon at about 3:00 P.M. when the vitality of the body starts to decrease, increases the vitality of the body within a week.
CANCER: Research in  Japan and  Australia has revealed that advanced cancer of the stomach and bones have been cured successfully. Patients suffering from these kinds of cancer should daily take one tablespoon of honey with one teaspoon of cinnamon powder for one month three times a day.
BAD BREATH: People in  South America first thing in the morning, gargle with one teaspoon of honey and cinnamon powder mixed in hot water, so their breath stays fresh throughout the day.
HEARING LOSS: Daily morning and night honey and cinnamon powder, taken in equal parts helps restore hearing.
It is good to take some sort of mixture of cinnamon and honey daily! �


How to Differentiate Between Ceylon and Cassia Cinnamon


You need to pay attention to a very important fact that all cinnamon is no good. Most people do not know it. There is a lot of discussion on the internet on topics like benefits, uses, remedies etc of cinnamon. There is either no or little information about the fact that all cinnamon is not good. There is fake and real, good and bad, toxic and non-toxic! In this article, I have explained all about this and how to choose the right one.

Cassia Cinnamon
This is called cassia, Chinese or Saigon cinnamon. Some people also call it fake cinnamon. It is produced in countries such as Vietnam, China and Indonesia. It is very hot and by chewing a piece you can feel the pungent taste sizzle and flame in your mouth. It shares some of the characteristics with real cinnamon like being anti-microbial, anti-fungal, blood regulation etc. The real problem, however, with the fake cinnamon is that it has a high content of coumarin; in fact, nearly 1200 times higher than found in the real herb. Taking large amount of coumarin is highly toxic and a prolong use may pose several serious health damages.

According to the Federal Institute for Risk Assessment (BfR) in Germany, coumarin can damage liver and kidneys if taken for longer periods. In case of sensitive individuals, only a small amount can cause damage.

BfR further advises that cassia cinnamon contains high levels of coumarin and should not, therefore, be eaten.

Cassia Cinnamon is a lot cheaper than the real or Ceylon variety. Most cinnamon sold in the supermarket is the Chinese or Cassia variety.

Ceylon Cinnamon
This is also called real, sweet or good cinnamon. It is produced in Sri Lanka from the plant called Cinnamomum Zeylanicum. It is light brown in color and thin and soft in appearance. The sticks are filled like a cigar with several folded layers. The amount of coumarin content is only 0.0004% against 5 % found in Cinnamomum Cassia.

How to Distinguish Between the Two?

In case of ground cinnamon, it is very difficult to distinguish between the two unless you are an expert, especially at sniffing spices. Howler, there is no guarantee that the result will be one hundred percent accurate. However, in case of sticks, it is easier to differentiate between the two. The following table and pictures highlight some of the differences which shall help you to choose the correct type.

Ceylon Cinnamon Cassian Cinnamon
Soft texture, easily broken Hard texture Not easily broken
Soft and Sweet aromatic Pungent and very spicy flavor
Coumarin content 0.0004% Coumarin content 5%
Generally safe Toxic if taken in case of prolonged use
Expensive and not found everywhere A lot cheaper and found in supermarket
Native to Sri Lanka Native to China, India, Vietnam, Indonesia
Light brown in color Dark Brown or reddish in color
Soft in appearance Rough in appearance
Several folds of layer like a cigar only inward folded. Empty cavity

Most bottled or packaged ground cinnamon does not mention its type or origin. It is, therefore, difficult to ascertain its type and origin or the country or plant. The best course is to identify the sticks and make sure that you are buying the Ceylon variety. Once you get hold of the real “thing” , use your blender to crush it into powder.

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sexFrom John Lash's website:

Kundalini and the Alien Force
The exploration of Gnosticism may be one of the more revealing pursuits of our time, and it is certainly one of the more difficult. Since Gnostics were suppressed in the 4th Century, disinformation about them has run amok. There is no clear and consistent presentation of Gnostic views, either in the slim surviving materials or in modern scholarship. To add to the confusion, Gnostics were initiates in the Mystery schools, and initiates were bound by a vow of silence about many things they experienced — although not, fortunately, about all things.

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On a visit to India in 2000 I met John Gray at the ashram of Sri Kaleshwar Swami and we had this
very lengthy conversation on health, helaing and the power of shakti....

- Alan Steinfeld, founder of NewRealities

Video taped by Paula Gloria of Rabbi Hole Central
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sexCharles Muir is a revered Tantric teacher. But can our intrepid reporter survive his illuminating weekend of prowess and spirituality?

Years ago, I began dating a young woman I was crazy about. I desperately wanted to prove my worth to her as a lover, but it wasn’t helping my cause that I was hopelessly wet behind the ears where lovemaking was concerned. So I figured I’d give myself a leg up by reading a book about Tantric sex, an ancient form of erotic yoga based in Eastern spirituality.

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Posted to FB on Wednesday, February 9, 2011 at 7:07pm

Dear Ones,
Recently there has been some polarization in the global community around the issue of engaging in sexuality with those who are in a student or client role with a sex educator.
I receive a good deal of feedback in this area as I am one of those who chooses such a path. I make no apology for doing so and see it as an essential part of what it is I am teaching and have to offer.  We all celebrate the Tantric path as one of Love, Power, and Freedom.   Part of the embodiment of this path, is seeing and then healing where I as a teacher can go along with the limiting cultural beliefs, judgments, and telepathic agreements around sex, love, and healing.  Leaving these elements unhealed can perpetuate more separation, fear, and disempowerment in the world.
I hear and understand the reasons many people have difficulty with teachers and healers engaging physically with students and clients.  There is probably no other area of human interaction that carries more shadow as well as potential for major healing and energetic shift.  Everyone has some wounds in this area and some much more than others if they have suffered direct abuse. People are often in a very vulnerable place when they seek to work with sexual issues and students also have the power dynamic when they are engaging with someone who is in a teaching role.  I do get this.
And I choose to do what I do out beyond the rules and ethics that belong in the realm of therapy and classrooms.  Love, consciousness, mediation, insight, breath, energy and body work all have their place in healing. So does sexuality including the physical act of Sacred Union.  Evaluating the seeker/student and using guidelines and protocols, I let love choose who and how I connect with someone while at the same time being as conscious of how our interaction may affect and trigger response. It is tricky territory to traverse and requires years of training.
I do respect and understand why educators set boundaries and have rules about their interactions with students. However, to judge or ban all teachers that might teach and share Sacred Union with students creates a block where a healthy boundary is needed.  Let's deal with teachers on an individual basis of professionalism, track record, and integrity.  Professionally, if you fail in discernment around what and who it is appropriate to share with, or, if you are using this work to fill your personal sexual appetite, you will pay a high price for your lack of integrity and impeccability.
I ask to be treated with the same respect for my work which I undertake consciously, motivated by love and with the intention of providing a space for radical healing and empowerment. I have worked with thousands of clients over many years and had the
privilege of being the difference that mattered at crucial times in their lives, often precisely because I was prepared to move the way love called me to move.
I also attract a good deal of controversy as a result and need to discern between projection and any elements of my own shadow.  It is a razor's edge out beyond the safe boundaries of mainstream ethics.  This is why I walk it impeccably and continue my own growth by engaging in review with trusted peers and allies.
Yes, it is appropriate that schools and/or groups take action and confront teachers,
guides, and practitioners that leave a trail of traumatized, manipulated, and abused
students and clients behind them.
To address ingrained puritanical Victorian values, let us start to heal our own shadows
and projected issues of fear, guilt, and shame around sexual intimacy and Sacred Union.
Then, Sacred Union can be one of the beautiful ways to addresses wounding, deep healing,
activation, initiation, and celebration.
For thousands of years Temple teachers, priests and priestesses have been sharing
Sacred Union with seekers, and students.  It is one of the beautiful ways to addresses
wounding, deep healing, activation, initiation, and celebration.
Where do we send these people that are wanting to learn and celebrate the sacrament
of sacred union with a teacher of this art?  Until I can tell them where else they can go
.....I can not ignore them or dismiss them.
Each of us who work in this field know we are one in essence and driven forward in our
work by the same dynamic and evolutionary force of love. I join with you there even
while celebrating the necessity of sometimes walking alone into the fire of my unique
We are One Heart
Living In Love, Power, and Freedom,
Baba Dez

Sacred Union and Sex Magic

Vito Hemphill I feel that it is always a matter of 'agreement between practitioner and client.' If the agreement is to have sexual relations to heal and the client is 'really aware of what is happening,' then in this context I understand why this healin...

Jade Beaty Over the years, I've developed the policy that my client and I build a foundation of trust and safety first, over as many sessions as I deem needed, so that BOTH of us are comfortable with going deeper. If someone doesn't want to stick arou..
Rahasya Advait As tantrikas, we, among our own, face a different scenario, perhaps, than when teaching a group or workshop, marketed in the culture, to the culture. We do pick up a bit of responsibility with that interaction…

For teachers who are not drive...

Rahasya Advait One more nitpick (keep checking back to see if there are any revalations about what exactly has been complained about)

The term "sacred union" … which, to me, is an internal thing, the masculine and feminine aspects in a being becoming unite...

Maya Yonika Yes... the more honest the better. Dez I personally feel that if you were to entitle yourself as prostitute...even Sacred or Tantric Prostitute, then It is a fair, honest exchange. It is clear what they are getting. But for those who com

Jason Valenti IMHO - There are aspects of the sexual experience, with in the human framework of course, that reach heights of Satori that can only be reached with another partner. It seems to me that there is this belief that the deep spiritual stuff ca

Maya Yonika ‎"What Dez is engaging is nothing more than something we all should be doing and treating it no more special than any other human activity". Many different personalities, upbringings, karmas, histories, cultures out there. No...we should no...

Yes, we tend to trust women but not men, in that way. No right or wrong to it, just an observable truth.

maybe it's some weird kind of culture reverse bias, because this is not true in medicine, law etc, where the male profession...

Jason Valenti Maya, is it possible that all of the negative things that has afflicted humanity starts at the core of the human sexual energy system. IMO, it does, and if it does all I'm saying is that it is obvious that the human race is sooooo outta to...See More
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Maya Yonika I agree with revisiting...working on repressions and obsessions...of course. Believe me... i know all about, from actual experience rather than theory, about facing fears. This has been stated, and it is also my truth as a path to awakening...See More
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Robert Hartman With male practitioners, the fear is that testosterone can cloud judgment and spur aggression that a female client in a vulnerable condition cannot withstand. Combine that with a "spiritual" rationalization and it could well lead to a trail...See More
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Robert Hartman One other comment about dopamine. It can cloud judgment, but it also opens up awareness of the mythic dimension. One just has to be sure that all four feet are grounded before soaring to those ecstatic heights.
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Maya Yonika ps... it is my experience presently...that my sexual energy system, in celibacy and intense yoga more healthy and happy than it has been since 14 when i started being super hyper sexual. What of those like myself who lived so ...See More
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Wahkeena Sitka My suggestion to you, Dez, is to take a year off, maybe 2 years off. And find something totally fresh and new to do for a year or two or forever.. Give yourself a break. Give yourself a fresh pair of glasses to look at this whole thing with...See More
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Robert Hartman One more word about "countertransference." Just as transferences are the roles and feelings that a client projects onto a practitioner, countertransference encompasses the roles and feelings that a practitioner projects on a client. There c...See More
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Shakti Malan Words well crafted Dez. The challenge is living them. Being a teacher in this field, is a position of great power that comes with great responsibility. Especially towards your students. The only way to walk this razor path is to keep doing the inner work, to become a clearer and clearer vessel, and to be ruthlessly honest with yourself about what motivates you sexually.
Yesterday at 3:30pm · Like ·  9 people
KrisEllen Sensualist I am grateful this conversation is happening. @Dez thank you for sharing your note and perspective. Thank you for the courage to speak your voice, and to share the vision which has moved you to share with the world. I observe we are all fac...See More
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Lori J Bayne I am confused beyond reason. Why anyone's opinions of Baba Dez' actions, life, ego, etc. (whether positive or negative) are being shared here is quite perplexing to me.

Maya ~ Baba Dez didn't say that he was trying to get anyone to have lot...See More
Yesterday at 5:49pm · Like ·  2 people
Robert Hartman ‎@Lori: One aspect of this discussion, and why it is relevant, is the degree to which an individual's autonomy around sexuality and romantic involvement has been compromised by previous traumatic experiences. The fact that we all have been wounded to a greater or lesser extent has meaning to us as practitioners and clients. If we lived in a society in which we could all be supported and supportive, free and easy, open and honest, there would be no need for discussions like this.
Yesterday at 6:03pm · Like ·  2 people
Lori J Bayne Robert ~ I definitely see what you're saying. I felt that I was seeing what looked like people trying to change someone else (and I could be wrong in my assessment), and that got my attention. I agree we have all been compromised and woun...See More
Yesterday at 6:12pm · Like ·  3 people
Maya Yonika Lori... i feel grossly misunderstood in your responses. "Baba Dez didn't say that he was trying to get anyone to have lots of sex or not". I was referring to Jasons comment saying 'everyone should be doing what Dez is doing'. I don't agree...See More
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Shama Helena Malin Yes it is a touchy subject and there have been abuses. How to minimize these instances is a quandry, but I think that it is in all of our best interest to uphold and maintain a certain level of consciousness and quality in our work. Perha...See More
23 hours ago · Like
Linda Marie Smith I wish to be a sexual shaman healer. Baba, I wish to study with you! :-)
23 hours ago · Like
Lori J Bayne Maya ~ I see your misunderstanding. All I am saying is that it does look like some are asking him to stop (the post near yours is the one I was referring to), and I'm not throwing stones at anyone. Personally, I think it's his title to giv...See More
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Maya Yonika peace. (;
21 hours ago · Like
Bruce Lyon A comment about the confusion inherent in discussions like this because of the different consciousness involved and the fact that it evolves through devlopmental stages

I do what ever I want - egocentric
my tribe ( or really the leaders of m...See More
21 hours ago · Like ·  5 people
Jennifer Jardine I think you hit the HOT BUTTON SACRED SPOT Dez! I have also heard a lot of commentary on your work from other educators and what I have said is (and I hope this is okay with you) the man is obviously doing something right! He is kicking ass, healing and educating all over the frickin' world!!! They are just jealous Baba 'cause you actually, unabashedly, DO THE WORK! Love that Spirit in you! Lovingly ~ Jen
21 hours ago · Like ·  1 person
Maya Yonika ‎....and I also agree with Bruce in that everything is perfect... the whole conversation is both in one context educational, in another, ridiculous. Lessons learned, gained, attained. Life continues. Love to you, Dez and all that you do. There is part of me that needed to express those feelings, and another part that fully gets that what is is simply Divine. You, me, and all of us...simply divine. The rest will play out according to god's graces. Sat Nam!
20 hours ago · Like
Maya Yonika ‎....but no...controversy does not automatically equate rightness or wrongness.
20 hours ago · Like
Catherine Angela Williams Dez, will you be participating in this thread as dialogue? I am reading this wondering what the value is for "peripherals" like me. I have experience with these issues from both sides, so I agree with comments both "for" and "against". (And...See More
19 hours ago · Like ·  1 person
Catherine Angela Williams ‎(I am using words here because I like them, they contain power too, and because this is the nature of the forum- experience is best.)

Dez is in truth, consciously creating a life which transcends social stereotyping and serves our greater g...See More
19 hours ago · Like ·  1 person
Catherine Angela Williams Dez is in shadow, addicted and unconscious, unable to hear the angry feedback: Yes, I agree

" The shadow can contain the divine, the luscious, beautiful aspects of personhood. The shadow almost always contains very fine aspects of being that...See More
19 hours ago · Like ·  1 person
Catherine Angela Williams Dont we all dance between the shadow and the light? I guess what matters is how much more aware of each we want to become? I do, and its terrifying and painful.
18 hours ago · Like ·  1 person
Catherine Angela Williams Aplogies Dez: you are of interest as a culture changer and friend, yes, but I have enough work to do on myself without wondering about yours.

To be aware of a single shortcoming in oneself is more useful than to be aware of a thousand in som...See More
18 hours ago · Like ·  1 person
Shima Opening-Lotus If I go to a singing teacher to learn to sing there is a good chance I may sing with this teacher. Anyone got a problem with that?

Tantrikas fuck. Yes we do breath work, and kundalini shake the house down and an array of "ancient sexual tant...See More
16 hours ago · Like ·  5 people
Baba Dez Nichols Shima...i love you. Right on! Thanks everyone for your comments. The AusConf is happening right now so i have my hands full at the moment. Will hopefully write something more on Monday :) Life is full, sweet, and amazing... Give Thanks!
13 hours ago · Like ·  2 people
Sasha Alex Lessin Ph.D. Most sex educators, sometime or other in their practice, do connect with clients. What's important, I think, is that they analyze their bonding (transference) pattern consciously and avoid harming anyone.
10 hours ago · Like ·  1 person
Jennifer Jardine ‎@ Shima I love your first line and as Tantricas we have sung and danced with our students and most like did a better job than any trained singing or dancing instructor because we can transend all the pretenses.Tantricas I know NEVER fuck anyone! If you fuck then you are a fucking whore! If you meet your students with the intent of only Love and MAKE LOVE, in whatever that form takes, then and only then you are a Tantrica.
9 hours ago · Like
Jerry Orban you are good right on time ifill you so does book
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Brian Walter I just want to give a shout out to Shima, who IMO summarized this entire debate with the following words

"Now there is an ooh aah about having sex with our students!? What madness has come upon the minds of humans?

Where are the warriors of o...See More
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Robert Hartman ‎@Jennifer: I don't think it's just jealousy, although that is certainly in the mix. When jealousy hijacks legitimate concerns to justify repression, it is just as wrong and unethical as using spirituality as a ruse for taking advantage cli...See More
8 hours ago · Like ·  1 person
Spring Cason Graf ‎"I have a large sexual appetite. It's larger than most people's. So because I desire sex so much, people wonder if there's addiction going on." - Dez, "Manifesting Maya"

"...or, if you are using this work to fill your personal sexual appeti...See More
6 hours ago · Like
Vito Hemphill Dakas and Dakinis work along a polarity between purely white with no touch to bright red with sexual intercourse with clients. We need competent people working at both ends and all along the distance between these extremes. Dez has clearl...See More
6 hours ago · Like ·  1 person
Spring Cason Graf Dez, I have celebrated our friendship for 33 years now. I think the best thing that friends can do sometimes, is just a calm lake that reflects as a mirror. Love, Spring
5 hours ago · Like
Robert Hartman Nobody who doesn't have a strong appetite for sex would go into this line of work. Nobody who doesn't have an appetite for physical force would go into law enforcement. Does that mean that all cops are suspect, that we shouldn't have them, ...See More
5 hours ago · Like
Rahasya Advait Dez, I still want to know what specifics you are answering with this note. It's weird reading your response to something that is not also presented.
5 hours ago · Like
Vesco Bondov Sneaky Dez and his "insatiable desire" seducing everybody here in a cyber prostration to that most holy of trinities S.E.X. .... :-) ... somebody has to clear all these new pathways ...

Too many concepts, levels, soul missions overlapping a...See More
4 hours ago · Like
Tricia Sabo tastes like an over abundance of "salted meat" is being served and passed around the table. true tantra is born from the wild couplings of nature and grows its roots in the heart of its creation.

i offer "insulting the meat" and eating it...See More
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Tricia Sabo what's the most important thing about a coal mine apart from the coal?

Dez, how deep are you willing to grow? can you dig it?
about an hour ago · Like
Lady Lark keep up the good work dez. it takes a lot of courage to come out the way you do. you boldly go where no one has gone before. i love you and support you brother. everyone here has so much wisdom to share. i'm in awe of the level of awar...See More
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Watsu is a beauiful practiced developed at Harbin Hotsprings by Harold Dull and it an allowing the floating and movement in the water to relax you and take you deeper into yourself.

I was having this water session with my teacher. It was a Healing Dance demonstration for a Watsu 1 class. She was floating me.  I was judging, thinking, oh, here we go again with the dance-like moves. I’m thinking, I don’t really like to receive water work.  I’d much prefer to give it.
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Original God-given power and knowledge. — The love of God in making love.

Barry Long (1926-2003) was a spiritual master who showed men and women how to
live together in truth and love.  His best-known work is Making Love: Sexual Love The Divine Way,
first written and recorded on cassette and later published as a book and on CD.

This article includes statements Barry Long made about the tantric aspect of his teachings.
They were previously published 2000-08 on a dedicated website:

I’ve been speaking at public meetings and seminars for more than twenty years.
I speak of life, truth, love, death and God. I address every aspect of the human condition.
I am original. The truth is always original, always fresh and new.

I am a tantric master. I know and live the divine mystery of love between man
and woman. I speak of it. I go into detail about lovemaking, honesty in relationships,
what love is and how to bring it back when it’s been lost. I introduced this knowledge of
love to the western world. It is a new teaching for the individual, bringing new honesty
and clarity about love and sex – love and sex having become hopelessly polluted and
responsible for massive unhappiness on this planet.

What is a Tantric Master?
A tantric master is someone who continuously brings into the world original
knowledge of the mystery of divine love between man and woman. He has also
by grace been given the divine power to bring woman to a greater realisation of the
love of God, or the eternal, by physically making love to her; and eventually she transforms man.
However, the woman must be willing and ready to start dying to her old selfish notions
and expectations of love; and so must the man, in order to be transformed.

God in Existence
In my teaching there is God, or truth, out of existence; and God, or love, in existence.
Anyone who is truly God-realised has realised the extraordinary state of being which
is outside the existence of all form and appearance. This realisation is the most important
of all possible realisations for it is the realisation of the truth behind the universe and all
existence. I call this the transcendental realisation and in my own case it occurred over
three remarkable weeks in December 1968 in London.

Every aspect of my teaching is the endeavour to impart the rudiments of self-denial and
the love of honesty and truth which are essential preparations if this mighty realisation
is to occur. All the teaching of every master and teacher, and indeed all of life, is towards
this end, whether it is known or not known.

The motivation of anyone who has realised the transcendental is to help others do
the same; or, according to the teacher's inspiration, to work in some way to help
eliminate the ignorance and misery of those who can listen. In my own case I observed
that most misery and unhappiness on earth is caused by man and woman having forgotten
how to love one another.

The forgetfulness or avoidance of true love is the greatest tragedy that anyone can
observe in the lives of children, adults and in our decaying society. The love of man and
woman, in its reality, I realised, is God in existence. This seems to be an even rarer realisation than that of the transcendental truth out of existence . . .

The primary spiritual practice is self-denial, giving and honesty – practised over a l
ong period out of an inner perception of rightness and goodness. No one can make
love rightly without this essential and ceaseless practice, just as no one can realise
the Most High without the same one-pointed way of life. People may think they are
making divine love, but without this dire self-abnegation they are kidding themselves.

Be Original
I wrote and recorded my Making Love Tapes in 1984 and they have been widely
circulated ever since. They have had a profound impact on people all around the world.
The tapes were copied and transcribed over and over with so little consciousness that the name of the author was frequently deleted. This meant that genuine people often were unable to get in touch with me and come to the source of the knowledge.

The tapes were also used, copied and distributed at the Osho Rajneesh ashram in
India, although I haven’t been able to work out why the people there needed my
tapes when they already had their own master. Some were moved by the tapes,
came to my teaching and stayed.

Because of the extraordinary response of people, many have wanted to promote
the teaching, not by using it in their own personal lives, but bypassing it on to others,
professionally. It frequently comes to my attention that people in many countries are
quoting from me, using my name as some sort of credential, copying and distributing
my tapes, quoting extracts without permission, setting themselves up as tantric teachers,
sex therapists and so on.

Most of these people have evidently not heard very much of my teaching at all, and
don’t realise the vast scope of it and how love and making love is only a part of the
divine life on earth. I have over 70 tapes available, more than a dozen books and
many videos, not just about sexual love, but describing the immense reality of everything that finally can lead to the realisation of God, the eternal, outside existence.

AlI I can do is alert the people to what a real tantric teacher says. I have written an
Open Letter to those who try to use my teaching to teach others. And I advise anyone
who is seeking original knowledge to read it . . .

An Open Letter
To those who try to use my teaching to teach others:
Tantra can only be taught by the tantric master. It is original God-given power and
knowledge. That knowledge has to be realised and made real in life, usually over
many years through devastating love of God and woman. The right or responsibility
to teach the knowledge is earned and implied in the realisation.

A tantric master is first of all God-realised and inspired by that enormous knowledge.
But all God-realised masters are not tantric masters. That's how rare genuine tantra is.

My tantric teachings are for the individual, for you personally. If you've been helped by
them in your own life they have fulfilled their purpose. You can go on using them to reach a deeper and more real place within your being. But if you use my tantric teachings in an attempt to teach others you misuse them and mislead the people.

When you teach something that you have not realised yourself and you build on
someone else's original knowledge, you only give the people a rehash of the truth
plus the information of your unenlightened experience. You might say this is better than nothing. But is it? Do you think the people are less intelligent or spiritual than you? Why not simply refer your students to the source that you yourself discovered? And then get on with your own teaching without using me as a crutch? When my teaching is quoted, embellished or interpreted by another it loses its spiritual power to transform enduringly.

Spiritually your students are seeking original knowledge. By basing your teaching on another authority you unwittingly confuse them. This makes you perversely indispensible; you are then needed to answer the students’ questions which arise from the confusion you have created in them!

It is a common practice for unoriginal teachers to combine my teaching with the
teachings of other teachers and so present another confusing mishmash to the people,
delaying their realisation even further. A frequent example is when followers of the master
Osho mix his teaching on love and sex with mine, when the two teachings are utterly different.
If Osho or any other teacher is your master, then you don’t need me. A master’s teaching
should be complete in itself, as mine is.

Then there is the frequent example of quoting my tantric words at such length that a
blatant breach of copyright occurs. Truth cannot be copyrighted. But truth is original.
If you have to quote someone else's originality then it is not your truth. And you can
be in breach of the world’s copyright laws, and face the consequences thereof, as an
ironic price for your unoriginality.  No one is authorised to run groups or teach in my name.
No one speaks for me, not even in my organisation. I have no followers or disciples,
no therapists or evangelical priests to misrepresent my message to the people.

My teaching is always original, so it is always new, and I continue to impart the
mystery of my God-given tantric knowledge to any man or woman who can hear me.

Be Original: Go to the Source
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