Keep attempting to share --about how much we do not realise about how much we do not realize about how much we are conditioned. Tiddly Pom.

When we use the term: 'think' we think we are 'thinking.'
"Do you know what thought did? -- It thought it did."
The mind does not think, it calculates.
And it can only calculate by using the information with which it has been
programmed. The mind can combine the programmed information,
but it cannot create. Creativity is another dimension -- of this dimension.
Most of the breakthroughs are -- breakthroughs.

So how about monogamy?
So difficult to get over. Very, very few have connected with how sick is the
whole idea of staying together inappropriately. Security.
Of course if two or more people are in harmony it is wonderful to be
together. Delightful. But staying together out of convention -- sick.

Because of the children? There are many studies showing the harm children
suffer from inharmonious parents staying together. In fact, pretty well all
children are harmed during childhood -- the ones where the parents stay
together, and the ones that part. Conditioning.

And why do children get harmed when the parents part? Because we have
programmed them to think that it is natural/normal for their parents to stay
together. If so-called grown-ups lived truthfully then there would be
nothing disturbing about the two parents doing what is truthful for them.

Most of us who are connected to reading these emails who watch/listen/read
anything from a right-wing fundamental Christian/Jew/Muslim/Buddhist/Hindu
can recognise just how primitive/closed/stupid they are. Yet over the years,
although we have come to see that most of the ideas we have held get
outdated -- we still hold on the the ones we have been given -- by
primitive/closed/stupid people. We do not look for ourselves. And even when
we do look for ourselves we compare it with the information with which we
have been programmed. -- by primitive/closed/stupid people.

I have heard that there is still a flat-earth society. (And a Middle-Earth
society as well -- but that may be something very different.
The Pope has cancelled Purgatory, admitted that the Vatican may have made a
bit of a mistake about Galileo, forgiven and made a saint Joan of Arch, and
just declared homosexuality is as dangerous to the planet as global warming.
And so on.

(Just as an aside: most of us acknowledge that the planet is not flat.
Please consider, just the possibility that -- it is not round either. Just
another limited human perspective.)

Back to monogamy.
We are born with with primitive animal instincts.
The way I see it is that we also have the opportunity/instinct to go beyond
those primitive states of consciousness. The lives of most animals, most of
the time, consists of eating, fighting for a mate, then copulating. Do we
really want to limit our lives thus?
Yet most animals are not monogamous. Some may be together for life, but DNA
testing has shown that the female is often fertilised by a male other than
the partner. Same with human DNA testing -- very revealing.

So apart from this primitive conditioning, what is this thing about
monogamy? Humans are also born with the instinct to be safe, secure, and
predictable. Nothing on this planet is so, yet that is for what we strive.
We hate change.
Yet although we do not eat the same food every day, or watch the same movie,
and we change houses, jobs, have more than one child, love more than one
parent, sibling -- we still restrict ourselves to one partner. Or so we say.

Marriages are getting shorter. The percentage of married people who have
clandestine affairs is large, and increasing rapidly, and the number of
people who kill or contract to have their spouses murdered is amazing --
especially in America. And we only know about the ones who get caught.

The suggestion is, as always, to look at our lives honestly.
Even if you are sure you are not going to change anything, take a look at
what is not harmonious in your life. What you would really like your life to
be like. That should cut down any complaints and help you to be more
responsible -- and realise that you really are creating your own reality.

And overall? Fussing about relationships is like attempting to fix an
impossible leaking roof -- while the very foundations of the house are
crumbling. Right at this very moment, the very foundations of our so-called
civilization are crumbling.

So, while looking for how we can help people who are less fortunate than
ourselves, let's stop grumbling, be more grateful for what we do have, and
have more fun.