Suggestion.
Often, when an unclear person asks a question, what they are really doing
is making a disguised statement - in a safer way.

What is often said is something like: ‘I did not want to upset them.’
What they really meant is, they want to be liked by this person, so they
do not want to say anything that would upset them - and thus not be liked
by them.
Without realising it, we are deciding how honest people can 'safely' be
with us.


Once again, when not being honest, anger builds.
How to tell? If there is any contraction, there is holding.

No big deal - just the difference between delight and misery - that’s all!