We are All Addicted

People complain about their situation yet fail to recognise that they have
created it -- because, in the unconsciously addicted part of them, that is
what they want.

Look around. People who have been raised in an abusive situation continually
get themselves into abusive situations. If a wife leaves an abusive husband
she quickly finds another abusive one. If a man's mother was dominating he
usually finds a dominating woman to marry. Again and again.

Of course they say they did not know the other person was like that until
they started living with them -- but of course, one one level everyone knows
everything. Especially woman. Our minds are very selective -- we only want
to know what we want to know.

As an example. If a child is brought up with alcoholic parents there is
tension in the house -- so without realising it the children are addicted to
tension. If there isn't any tension they feel flat and bored as though
nothing is happening -- so they seek the situation that feeds their
addiction.

We not only get drawn to, but we actually create the situations we need to
see ourselves more clearly -- and evolve.

And, once again, anything about which you get upset in another is something
you are suppressing in yourself.
Once you have accepted that part of yourself you will not longer have anger
or judgement of that action in another. Just the opposite in fact -- you
will feel caring for them.

People say: 'I have told them I will not take it anymore.' Not so. When
someone really says something the other gets it, and either becomes more
aware, or leaves. So it is a matter of saying your truth -- and meaning it.

But of course the message is usually mixed. What you really want is the
other person to do the things you want them to do and not do the things you
do not want them to do. We want our way, our way. Of course.

And people want certainty. They want to know there is always someone there
-- so they are not alone. So they pay the price -- by living with someone
who, after the honeymoon is over, is not much fun -- most of the time.

The intelligent way, for almost all people is to live in a community.
Then you can choose who you want to spend time with when you feel like
spending time with them. If you feel like a chat, choose someone who is in
the mood for a chat. Same for sex. Etc.

We really, really do need to wake up -- and stop complaining.
Complaint is bullshit. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A VICTIM.
Get it?

Don't fret too much if you have not got it -- I know of very, very few who
have got it -- and are living it.

Sending love...








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