Suggestion.

Grief is self-indulgent - it is about ourselves, not the other.

Just consider.
When someone dies, do you really want them to stay -
just for your comfort?

You are missing them because you are not taking care
to complete the things in your life that need taking care of.

Sad - yes. You miss them. And anything else has been using them
to fill in a space in yourself that you have not been taking care of.

That's what we do with difficult relationships - use the other to fill
our empty space. And as they are attempting to do the same -
conflict.

Fulfilment is when you no longer need anyone, or anything
to feel at peace. And way, way beyond any judgement.
And at the same time, really, really enjoying
meeting people who are also in that delightful state.

Maybe everything is a placebo effect!
Maybe nothing is real - it only seems so because
we have come to believe it so.

This article just sent:
http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/-2nrl0.html

suggests Mindfulness can heal anything.

Back in the 60's we met Barry Stevens -
who wrote the book: "Don't Push The River."
http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1364010.Don_t_Push_The_River
As I remember it, she had an accident and was told she would never
walk again. She lay in bed visualising the damaged part of her body -
and repaired it.

Some scientist condemn alternative remedies saying it is *just* a
placebo effect. And the same thing could be said about any treatment.
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xex9wu_the-placebo-effect-knee-surgery_tec
h#.UblFIBZhjTQ

From the East we are told everything is Maya - Illusion.
And maybe it is.
Aren't you curios? I find just the idea fascinating.

I am now feeling disconnected from the main things that most
people are engaged in.
Generally, being total in what ever I have done, things seem to get
finished with quickly, and moving on happens.
So, not feeling so connected with this level of living,
I don't feel so qualified to share anymore on ordinary life.

Now, no longer very interested in what we can see, hear, touch,
but open to The Something Else - which I feel is with us/we are one with
all the time.

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One thing that still persists to share about is: Freedom.

I find that Freedom is an essential ingredient
for feeling really, really alive.
Especially if it is the feeling of being free from fear -
especially of death.

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We have had a few reports lately about people feeling
they have found their soul mate, and then finding the
soul mate is more of a should-mate.

I find it an interesting phenomenon.
Someone is attracted to a person because they are exceptionally
alive and juicy, then, when they get together they present conditions
for staying together - mainly, not to be attracted to anyone else -
which kills the very thing to which they were attracted!

Then, when the other person gives up their freedom they become
ordinary - meaning, boring - because they have disconnected
from their feeling of freedom.

I know how it goes. the energy is so strong, and you are not feeling
attracted to anyone else anyway, so you say to yourself: 'Why not!'

No matter how *in love* you may feel, if the other has conditions -
you are choosing to be a slave to their neurosis, and the very thing
that attracted them to you is going to fade away.
"Yours sincerely, fading away."


This is what you may not be understanding.
First of all it is very rare to find someone who is truly free,
and when they are free - especially from the fear of death,
they are actually in a whole different category of life and living.
Like a different dimension/level of species.

This state is so rare it is not easy to find someone suitable to live with
in harmony. (And if it is appropriate for you - they will come to you.)

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Comments on other subjects:

I often hear people say that they are happy.
My definition of happiness is a feeling that emanates - inside and out,
that is not dependant on outside conditions.
So you may have preferences, but if they are not met, happiness is
undisturbed.

It is true that the sex energy needs to be freed -
and when it is freed - it is just the start on the process
of realising you are already free - of everything.

  Let's see if we can disconnect from our installed idea of Death and take a look at some other possibilities.

In many parts of the world there are two main forbidden subjects  - Sex and Death.
In some parts it is one or the other, and in most parts - both.
(I cannot really understand the taboo about not wearing clothes.
In some American TV programmes nipples are blurred out -
even when under clothing! Sexual temptation I suppose.)

Some of the ways I see the subject of Death:

Some Atheists, and many conventional scientists see us as just physical.
We are just a physical/emotional/mental body, and when it dies
we die and are gone. Finished. Forever.

Most religions have a different take on it.
Many Western religions tell us that if we are good, and follow the rules
laid down by God, then we will go to Heaven and live close to God.

If we do not believe in God, and/or do not follow the rules then we go
to eternal damnation in an everlasting fire. Hell. Forever.
(Strange don't you think - from a God that says to love your neighbour
and forgive your enemies?)
There used to be a third alternative - Purgatory - an in-between stage
where you were held until you had repented enough to go to heaven -
but that was abolished by a recent Pope. Now it is one or the other.

One religion says that everyone has to follow their particular religion -
convert or die.
Those of the religion who die in the cause go to heaven and are rewarded
with seventy-two virgins. (I wonder why seventy-two, and what happens
for the women when they die in the cause.)

Then we have the principle of many lives - we have to keep coming back
into a body until we have learnt what we are to learn.
One religion says that the average person is reborn eighty thousand times -
approximately - before they can stay in - wherever they go.

Then there are the other *other siders*
This now has a strong following - especially with the television series
such as John Edward - who talks to entities who are no longer in their bodies.
And the amazing experiences of people who have clinically died
and come back.

Most of the near death experiences have similar experiences -
float out of the body; greeted by friends and family who have died;
bright light; tunnel; compassionate being; life passes before them;
told to return.

Just very few have a different experience - melting into the Source.
(One Eastern religion says that while still in the body, at the Fifth Level
there is the realisation that all is One; at the Sixth they enter into the
One and still retain their unique individuality; at the Seventh
they become one with The One.)


Change of tempo. Let's disconnect from all of that - and not know.
To most, death is a wall - and we are this side of it.

What if that is not so - there is no barrier, and we float in and out.
What if some of our dreams - are not dreams.
What it what we call *the other side* is not on another side,
but just in a different form.

Or ...
What if The Other Side is our permanent address and we are just on
vacation here.

Or …
(Here you can insert your own unique interpretation of what is reality.)

Or/And …
How about we extend the idea that we all connect when sitting
at the same time - and be so present, in and to each moment,
that we feel connected - all the time - to everybody, and everything.

Love

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Ameya sent this today:

http://www.oprah.com/own-super-soul-sunday/Full-Episode-Oprah-and-Dr-Brian-
Weiss-on-Past-Lives-Video

 Paul Lowe wrote:
>Seems like the 'meditation' suggestion is taking off.
>There does seem like there is a major change
>about to evolve. Still no idea what.


Hi Dear Paul, Dear Everyone,

I have been trying to form the words to describe something unfolding for me
in the last little while. What, I cannot really say. On one level, a
change,
like stepping through a portal, on another, very subtle, as things look
the same. But when I tune in, it feels like a new chapter or level.

It is like another piece of a larger puzzle now clicking into place
that feels 'right' and something I've been waiting for.
Very fuzzy for the mind and at the same time clear
on a level I am not 'seeing' in the usual way.

The main aspect seems inside, Here,
and there is another to do with connecting,
meeting others in a different way: deeper, simpler.
It happens when we are together, it happens when we meet,
it certainly happens in the Gatherings... and I had a thought:

As a number of other friends have been also experiencing
this 'Something in the air' lately, something imminent,
let's try an experiment with all of us connected here
to invite this thing, or more likely - open ourselves to it.

The idea is to simply sit silently together
not 'meditating' or doing anything in particular,
tuning in to ourselves and each other with no purpose
other than staying open, available, inviting,
as if listening as if to some sweet sounds...

The idea is to meet this way every day at the same time.
Seeing as how we're scattered all over the time zones
this is not easy to organise in 'real time' so I propose
to do it some time between 22:00 and 23:00 where you are,
be it for that entire hour, or for five minutes in that hour.

Don't let the mind interfere with practical limitations.
If the time doesn't fit for you, do it when it does fit.
The relevant part is the intention, the tuning in,
and that is not limited by time, it is always...

Lots of Love, Devesh


Paul writes:  We have been getting delightful messages from some of you
who are following Devesh's suggestion that we sit together
at 22/23 Central Euro Time. That is 6am here.
I sit for a little while, and for the rest of the time  am extra aware
that we are connecting.

We now have a strong number of scientists who are questioning the
whole old idea that we are just the physical, and realising that as we
are radiating our vibrations, we are all connected - all and everything.

Again, I have this message that wants to come through - about how
nothing is the way we think it is, based on how we think about Death.
It is the first time that something that wants to come through
is not doing so when I sit down to record it. Later.

Sending you all lots of love

Hi Love,

Happy to hear most things are going well for you.

Many people are reporting difficult times.
Some psychics are telling us that it is part of the transition
of consciousness that is happening on/with us all this planet.

You mention using the Will to overcome the difficulties.

I have never found using the Will to be a permanent solution -
just delays the inevitable.
The only place from which we can attempt to use the Will
must come from the old - which is - old.
I think we need to allow the old to clear itself.

It is the new for which we need to be open,
and that, at least for the new, is unknown.

The old wants to be safe, secure and predictable.
The new could be seen as a gamble, but in my experience
allowing the new has always brought a new level of de-light.

Fear of the new is the fear of dying, and for the new to evolve
we need to die to the old. *Unless you die and be reborn.*

It is the job of the old to take care of you.
So difficulty for the old is - no guarantees.

Amazing how much energy we put into being safe, secure,
and predictable - and then complain about getting bored!

World-wide things do seem to be hotting up don't they.
Just what we need. The more things come into the open
the quicker will be the transition - one was or the other.

Sending lots of supporting love - for you,
and what you are attempting to do for us all.

If you tune into another person deeply, you will also be able to tune into a new depth within yourself.

If you are not happy and fulfilled it means you have stuff in the way that you are not taking care of.